Just like the goby fish and the pilot shrimp, learners help each other in many ways. Group time is one of the times that learners share how they are helping each other. This morning an older learner told the studio, “I helped [a younger learner] put his backpack in his cubby.” Younger learners love to help in a number of ways, such as bringing a pencil or material to a friend during the work period, or holding the gate open for other learners to enter the playground.
As part of the Montessori curriculum, we offer many group “grace and courtesy” lessons to help the learners develop prosocial skills and learn how to be a friend and a peaceful member of the community. We often introduce grace and courtesy lessons through role-playing, and invite each learner to take a turn practicing what to do and say in different scenarios. Children learn to ask questions such as “Would you like some help?” or “Excuse me, could you help me?” or “Could I use that when you are finished?”
Other lessons include greeting someone or introducing oneself, shaking hands, waiting, apologizing or excusing oneself, interrupting or asking for help, speaking politely, or saying please and thank you. This week learners focused on how to check in with a friend if they accidentally bump another person’s body on the playground. The children learned to ask “Are you okay?” and to help find a guide, get water, or comfort a friend if she is upset.
Learners also discussed the fact that you don’t need to look like your friends to be friends. The goby fish and the pilot shrimp look quite different! One learner said, “My friend doesn’t look like me, but she is my friend.” Other learners agreed that they looked different from their friends but were friends because they had important things in common, like playing together and helping each other. In the studio we are learning that being a good friend requires skills and practice, and makes school more fun for everyone!